Ours to Borrow

Our children, that is.  They are ours to borrow for 18 or so years.  To raise them in the way they should go, and hopefully when they are grown, they will not depart from it (if it has been sound training, that is).  While we build much of our lives, or our schedules at least, around them, they are only with us for a short time.  They are not ours to keep.

If you have children, have you ever thought about who would raise them if something happened to you?  You may have considered this if you have a will.  However, we rarely think it will happen.  Statistically, that’s true, but we don’t know our tomorrow anymore than we knew our today, yesterday.

A couple of weeks ago, I shared with you my experience with having a rare Basilar Migraine that mimicked a stroke.  While we have done some estate planning and have our children placed in the care of family members, the reality of something like that actually happening is beyond the thoughts of most of us.

I believe that most of the severe allergic reactions had by my son have in some way or another been at my hand.  At the same time, I have also been the one to “come to his rescue.”  What if he suddenly comes under the care of another.  Will they know what to do? What not to feed him? That cross-contamination is a real and present risk.

I want to take today’s post to applaud those of you — moms, dads, grandparents — who raise a child with food allergies.  You do a mighty job! You willingly give up a desire to eat at a restaurant.  You willingly give up the ease of casserole cooking.  You willingly give up the tried and true PB&J.  You willingly pay the extra expense of foods that are safe for your child.  You willingly open your home for a play date because it’s safer than sending your child to another’s house.  You willingly lose sleep to make sure the hives have diminished or the wheezing has stopped.  You willingly drag along a medical bag every place you go, and promptly return home when its forgotten.  You willingly grind your own gluten-free flour.  You willingly make your food from scratch.  You willingly send them out the door, always with a bit of unease, to take on their day, potential dangers lurking everywhere.  You willingly….on and on….

I encourage you today to continue in this sacrificial love that you have for this child.  He or she could not survive without you.  You are showering this child with grace.  This grace in the everyday.

I looked up the definition of grace and there are several.  A few of them are:

free, unmerited divine favor

a virtue coming from God

disposition to or an act or instance of kindness, courtesy, or clemency

the quality or state of being considerate or thoughtful

I am honored to link up today at Grace Laced Mondays.  Gracelaced.com is one of the few personal blogs that I visit daily and have been doing so for several years.  Ruth is my sister (not physically), although I’ve never met her.  She offers daily encouragement to me and perhaps she can do the same for you.  Visit Grace Laced Mondays to see how Ruth and others experience grace in the everyday.  (I hope to make Grace Laced Mondays a regular occurrence here, but it won’t always be this “heavy”…I promise 🙂 )

Grace is the Umbrella under which I take cover.  Grace is the Rock upon which I stand.  Grace is the Pillow on which I rest.  Grace is my free and unmerited Best.  Grace is the All in my all in all.  Grace is the I AM in the I am what I am.

How do you find grace in the everyday?

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12 Responses to Ours to Borrow

  1. I’m so glad to be a part of each others’ lives in this way. “You willingly gride gluten-free flour…” that is so true even if it is not flour that I’m grinding. 🙂 Our willingness is a sacrifice of praise to the Lord! Thanks for sharing, friend.

  2. Jenny says:

    My husband and I were just talking about how our children were not our own…and that with that mindset it will help us to raise them to GO when they get older. Go and do…not feel obligated to stay and be our kids.(of course we will always welcome them into our home and arms, but we want them to be their own people and not give up their dreams and desires for our selfish needs)
    We eat g/f by choice, and enjoy the benefits of it, but it has most definitely made us more aware of gluten being in EVERYTHING!! I can’t imagine the researching and sifting you must be doing as a parent of an allergy sufferer just to find foods that work. Keep it up momma.

  3. I really liked this post! It reminds me to be thankful for the little things that don’t require special attention in my life, and to remember those who do have to follow those extra rules- whether it’s an allergy or something as complex as living with a child with Autism.

    • Cook says:

      Noelle, I thought about putting something in there about the admiration and dedication I have for parents who care for children with much greater needs than my own son. I figured I was just leave it at that though. Thanks for picking up on that point! And thank you for your kind words!

  4. Kristen says:

    Beautifully written, Michelle! I often admire your dedication to your sweet son and think that you are such a great mom!

  5. Kristen says:

    Michelle….just noticed that my post today with the Split Pea and Ham recipe may be OK for Will? Willing Cook approved????

    • Cook says:

      Very true! It is. I read your post this morning. The problem is that my dear husband will not come within 10 miles of anything containing or resembling peas. He eats just about anything, but not that. Thanks for trying though! 🙂

  6. Abby says:

    Thanks for the reminder that the time with our kids is short…I don’t want to waste it! What a blessing and privilege to be put in charge of these little lives.

    I’m looking forward to getting to know you better through your blog. It’s quite an accomplishment to be feeding your family so well in spite of multiple allergies. Kudos to you!!

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