Life with Food Allergies: Facing the “No Cure” Reality

What I Wish I Knew….

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Vigilance!  Focus!  Positive Outlook!  Faith!

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Food Allergies are a funny thing.  They can be fatal.  They have no cure.  They can have no affect on you whatsoever.  And all the above can be avoided.  For outsiders, food allergies are not even comparable to life-threatening or chronic diseases.  But to those who suffer, the reality of the possible fatal blow are ever present.

How does one come to grips with the reality that this “disease” has no cure?  You can’t take a pill.  You can’t take a shot.  You may get better over time (meaning, you may grow out of it).  You have only the option to avoid the offender all the way, 100% of the time.  But, as everyone knows, avoiding the offender all the way, 100% of the time is not always possible.  Even though you try with every fiber of your being, 100% is not a guarantee.

My advice:

Stay vigilant! Stay focused! Stay positive!

Like I have said so many times, pray for the best, prepare for the worse.  Stay vigilant to protect yourself or your loved one from an offending food.  You can never let down your guard.  Stay focused on the big picture — food is only needed for survival.  While we enjoy it, it is not the source of our joy!  Stay positive that a cure may come, that your child may grow out of it, that your family can make it through.

At the end of the day, you cannot live under a rock.  You must function in this world with the “no cure” reality.  Do your best! For me, I leave it to God.  He put my son on this earth; He can choose to take him away.  That may sound harsh to some of you, but that is how I face it.  I don’t want that to happen, and God has given us the means to prevent that from happening through great medical care, knowledge, and preventative steps to keep him safe.  In a nutshell, that is how I try to face the “no cure” reality — pray for the best, prepare for the worse — all the while staying vigilant, staying focused, and staying positive.

How do you face the “no cure” reality of food allergies?  Please share your thoughts with us.

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6 Responses to Life with Food Allergies: Facing the “No Cure” Reality

  1. what a great post. staying positive and focusing on what you CAN enjoy has definitely really helped!

    • Cook says:

      You’re always such an encourager, thank you! Yes, I definitely try to stay focused on what we can have and not what we can’t!

  2. Jamie Morris says:

    Thank you! I’m really new to this whole food allergy thing, so while I’m trying to be very positive, it’s hard to not get bogged down! I’ve made it my theme that I’ll be able to eat EVERYTHING in heaven, and it will taste even better there. Praise the Lord for a hope and a future!

    • Cook says:

      Jamie,

      Thank you for your encouraging words! If you ever need anything while figuring out food allergies, anywhere along your journey, please do not hesitate to ask. I am happy to serve!

      Many blessings to you,
      Michelle

  3. Shauna says:

    I find it hardest trying not to live ‘under a rock,’ as it were. One of my allergies is to a chemical substance (Sulfites. It’s weird. Isn’t a protein, but can still induce anaphylaxis.). And it’s everywhere. It’s in car exhaust, perfumes, paint fumes, floor cleaners, after-shave lotions. So every time I go anywhere with any of these – or basically anywhere with people or inside of buildings – I run the risk of having a small reaction that will simply grow worse until I get out of the situation.

    Trying to find ways to interact with people safely has been so difficult, and dealing with the loneliness of that has been the worst of it. But I try to focus on the good, and I focus on how much I DO have. There are so many in this world suffering so much, and all I need to worry about, when you boil it down, is avoiding certain places.

    I don’t have to worry about war in my backyard, or about my children starving, for example. It’s a harsh way to think about it, but it helps remind me of how MUCH I have that I might take for granted, like enough money to get by and my family’s safety on a day to day basis.

    And then I try to remind myself that the way I am used to doing things doesn’t mean that’s the only way to do things. So I am looking into hiking clubs and jogging clubs that I might be able to join, as one thing. Concerts in the part during times when there are less people, but just as much funny. Reconnecting with friends who are willing to meet me in safe places – there are sadly fewer friends who are willing to do this than I might have hoped, but at the same time, I really get to know the people who really care about me, so the group is smaller but closer than it used to be.

    • Cook says:

      Shauna,

      While it’s true that you do have so much to be thankful for, there is no shame in grieving your “loss” as well. I try my best to encourage a positive and gracious outlook on life, but there is the day to day reality that it’s hard. It’s a down right hard journey. I trust that you will be able to travel it with much grace and mercy!

      I grieve for you as you really are experiencing something so unique and isolating. Friends and family sure do show their true colors during struggles. A friend of mine is experiencing much isolation and heartache in her life (and her family) as they seek to serve children through foster care. She says that she never realized how much the few “true” friends really mean to her and stick by her and help her. I hope that this smaller group of friends will be an encouragement and blessing to you. I’m so glad you’ll be trying out some hiking and jogging clubs! That’s a great way to get out into nature and meet new people.

      I’d love for you to keep me updated from time to time on how you’re doing. All the best, Shauna!

      Michelle

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